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Joseph and Jane Clementi

Joseph and Jane Clementi are the loving parents of Tyler Clementi. Since losing their son, the couple has been on a journey of loss, discovery, and action. They founded The Tyler Clementi Foundation, a nonprofit organization dedicated to creating safe and inclusive spaces for LGBT and vulnerable youth, their families and their allies. As a married couple, they have shared the tragic experience of losing a son and have a powerful message to deliver to other parents. As individuals, they each come from their own perspective to focus on different key points.

Joseph Clementi’s core message is about turning Bystanders into Upstanders. His view is that there are three people involved in any type of bullying situation: the bully, the victim, and the bystander who witnesses but does not act. Joseph wants to share his message that bystanders to bullying have an obligation to get involved and defend those who are targeted.

Jane Clementi’s core message is one of religious acceptance. Jane wants to see the concept of “sin” disassociated from homosexuality. She believes that churches and people of faith can and should embrace gay people, and that doing so will save families and lives.

Since the death of their son, the Clementi’s have spoken and presented papers at numerous events including NJ DARE 2012 Annual Conference in Atlantic City, CAPS Long Island, Rutgers University 2011 Symposium, the Federal Reserve of NY, BNP and Wells Fargo.

James Clementi

James Clementi is the older brother of Tyler Clementi. The loss of his brother was a life altering event for James, and sent him on a path of activism and awareness for bullying, suicide prevention, and LGBT rights. Like his brother Tyler, James is gay. The core part of his message is the equality of LGBT people in our society and the devastating consequences of bullying on our young people. Bullying that happens face-to-face and online through social media has become an epidemic among our youth. James is focused on reaching out to college students, using Tyler’s story as a tool to reinforce the inherent value of each life. Respect, love and equality are the key components of his message. James envisions a youth culture where kindness is cool, and respect is the norm.

James has written about his experience for Out Magazine, spoken at events such as the Gay Men’s Chorus of Los Angeles First Annual Voice Awards as well as television programs Anderson Cooper 360 and Rock Center with Brian Williams, and has blogged about bullying in The Huffington Post.

Tyler Clementi
Ridgewood, NJ
December 19, 1991 - September 22, 2010

Tyler Clementi was a smart, talented and creative young man. He had a kind heart and bright spirit, and was deeply loved by his family and friends. He grew up with a passion for music and was an accomplished violinist. Tyler began playing the violin in the third grade. Tyler was also an enthusiastic bicyclist and unicyclist. He taught himself to play the violin while unicycling. He performed in numerous orchestras and was awarded with several accolades for his musical contributions.

Tyler was gay, and had just begun sharing this part of himself with the people he was close to during the summer after his high school graduation. This was a difficult time for him, but he was brave and honest about who he was. After graduating high school, Tyler attended Rutgers University where he was excited to learn, grow and have the freedom to live openly as a gay man. As an incoming freshman he began playing violin at the institution’s high level orchestra. Only a few weeks into his first semester, Tyler’s musical gifts earned him a seat in an orchestra comprised primarily of upperclassmen and graduate students.

At college Tyler became a victim of cyber-bullying. His privacy was invaded when his college roommate set up a webcam to spy on him. The roommate viewed him in an intimate act, and invited others to view this online. Tyler discovered what his abuser had done and that he was planning a second attempt. Viewing his roommate’s Twitter feed, Tyler learned he had widely become a topic of ridicule in his new social environment. He ended his life several days later by jumping off the George Washington Bridge. Tyler was eighteen years old.

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