National Coming Out Day is October 11th. Coming Out is a tremendously brave step in an LGBT person's journey. The family of Tyler Clementi sits down with LGBT advocate and Faith in America founder Mitchell Gold to talk about love and acceptance for LGBT people. Take a moment to read the interview and learn how you can be an ally to the LGBT people in your life. This is an important message that all youth and parents need to read. It matters because we all have an LGBT person in our life.

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Joseph and Jane Clementi

Joseph and Jane Clementi are the loving parents of Tyler Clementi. Since losing their son, the couple has been on a journey of loss, discovery, and action. They founded The Tyler Clementi Foundation, a nonprofit organization dedicated to creating safe and inclusive spaces for LGBT and vulnerable youth, their families and their allies. As a married couple, they have shared the tragic experience of losing a son and have a powerful message to deliver to other parents. As individuals, they each come from their own perspective to focus on different key points.

Joseph Clementi’s core message is about turning Bystanders into Upstanders. His view is that there are three people involved in any type of bullying situation: the bully, the victim, and the bystander who witnesses but does not act. Joseph wants to share his message that bystanders to bullying have an obligation to get involved and defend those who are targeted.

Jane Clementi’s core message is one of religious acceptance. Jane wants to see the concept of “sin” disassociated from homosexuality. She believes that churches and people of faith can and should embrace gay people, and that doing so will save families and lives.

Since the death of their son, the Clementi’s have spoken and presented papers at numerous events including NJ DARE 2012 Annual Conference in Atlantic City, CAPS Long Island, Rutgers University 2011 Symposium, the Federal Reserve of NY, BNP and Wells Fargo.

James Clementi

James Clementi is the older brother of Tyler Clementi. The loss of his brother was a life altering event for James, and sent him on a path of activism and awareness for bullying, suicide prevention, and LGBT rights. Like his brother Tyler, James is gay. The core part of his message is the equality of LGBT people in our society and the devastating consequences of bullying on our young people. Bullying that happens face-to-face and online through social media has become an epidemic among our youth. James is focused on reaching out to college students, using Tyler’s story as a tool to reinforce the inherent value of each life. Respect, love and equality are the key components of his message. James envisions a youth culture where kindness is cool, and respect is the norm.

James has written about his experience for Out Magazine, spoken at events such as the Gay Men’s Chorus of Los Angeles First Annual Voice Awards as well as television programs Anderson Cooper 360 and Rock Center with Brian Williams, and has blogged about bullying in The Huffington Post.

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Teachers College will help continue the work of TCF by collaborating with the Tyler Clementi Foundation to offer for the first time an LGBTQ Diversity Scholarship for students interested in a career that supports LGBTQ populations in the fields of health, education, and psychology.
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This March, SFGMC presents the world premiere of “Tyler’s Suite,” a multi-movement work created by top American composers of this century. "Tyler’s Suite” creates a new story of inclusion, dignity and acceptance for other youth and their families through a musical experience like no other.



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Richard Socarides Lists the Top Ten Gay Rights Heroes of 2013 in The New Yorker magazine. Read about the groundbreaking leadership to create change in society by heroes such as Edith Windsor, NBA star Jason Collins, Pope Francis, and Tyler Clementi Foundation co-founder Jane Clementi!
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Attention LGBTQI students: TCF Partner Columbia Teachers College now offers the LGBTQ Diversity Scholarship for selected recipients who demonstrate a commitment to research and practice surrounding LGBTQ issues and awareness. Check out the full list here.
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Thank you to all who joined and helped us make the 1st Annual Upstander Legacy Celebration a huge success. Over 150 supporters turned out to hear about the Tyler Clementi Foundation's achievements over throughout our ground-breaking year.
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Check out the latest blog from James Clementi, published exclusively on LGBTQ Nation. Gay Straight Alliances are creating a powerful culture shift in high schools across America. Read about it here!
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It was an emotional day for the family of Tyler Clementi – the Rutgers University student who committed suicide after his roommate secretly videotaped him with another man. As CBS 2’s Andrea Grymes reported Sunday, Clementi’s mother, Jane, 55; and brother, James, 28; went for the first time.

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It is National Coming Out Day! The Clementi family sits down with activist and friend Mitchell Gold to talk about the importance of Coming Out, and parental acceptance of LGBT youth. Read the interview here.
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I remember sitting in church and hearing the sermons about what it meant to be a Christian—the commandment to love your neighbor as you love yourself—and thinking that this just didn’t apply to me; I was unworthy.
Read James' latest blog at Believe Out Loud!
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Cathedral Dean Gary Hall, leading advocate for LGBT equality, welcomes guest panelists Jane Clementi, Judy Shepard and Joshua Deese for discussion about Matthew Shepard and Tyler Clementi’s legacies and how people of faith can stand with LGBT youth. Sunday Oct. 6th 10:10am at the National Cathedral.
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